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Friday, January 21, 2011

From Luke's Inbox: Ministry in Public School

I know you went to a public high school for the purpose of ministry. I feel called to do the same. Most people are heavily discouraging me from doing this. They say that homeschooled students who go to a public school for the purpose of ministry do not come out as close to God as they were, or are very far from God. Since you (I assume) have been in this situation before, I was wondering what advice you could give.

Wow, what a powerful question. I will do my best to give you the most honest and complete answer I can. But since I'm sure I won't address everything here, I am happy to continue this dialog as long as you would like.

It sounds like you've read a few of my blog posts about my reasons for going to public school. I have written again and again about my experience with ministry in public school... and, I'm sure, I'll write more in the years to come <smile>.

At the same time, the more I reflect on my high school experiences, the more I recognize the need to caution people against jumping into that crazy, really difficult world.

Before I go any further with this answer, I urge you to read these two articles I wrote for Heart of the Matter:

Desires of Our Heart
Do Hard Things: Keep Quiet

The experiences I relate in those two articles are the foundation for what I say next.

I believe going to public school for the purpose of ministry is a wonderfully horrible thing.

Ministry is hard. It's even harder when you're "doin' it wrong." As I mention in the posts above, my "ministry" was too often based on seeking to "save" people, rather than share the love of Christ and actually, you know, minister to people. I believed that my job was to change my school by getting people to follow Christ and accept His salvation. This was wrong. I've come to realize that I should have ministered to people because God loves them. I should have sought to introduce them to Christ by being like Him. It's the job of the Holy Spirit to change hearts and draw people to God. The best I can do is seek to love as Christ loves. When people see Christ, they can make the choice to follow Him or not. When people see a half-crazed, passionate religious fanatic--me--they don't think about Christ at all. How sad that my passionate efforts were so misplaced. I believed I was loving people by trying to get Jesus into their face. In reality, I was too often a "clanging gong" because I was more interested in my "ministry" and missed the opportunity to love others.

Did I leave high school close to God because of my desire to minister?

Yes. And no.

I believe that every ministry experience (no matter how "right" you do it) is incredibly difficult. Think back to the many Missionary Biographies you've read through Sonlight: Ministry is hard! It beats you up and tears you down. It crushes us and so clearly demonstrates our desperate need for the grace of God in our lives. And, often, there are long periods where we have no idea what God is up to.

I am so glad I went to a Christian University after high school. I had the opportunity to confront the really hard questions: Why doesn't God save people, when He clearly wants to? What is our responsibility in ministry? Does God use sinners? To what degree do we negatively and positively affect others? What does it mean to love people? And why do people keep talking about God using those who are "available" when that so often amounts to a hill of beans?

I wasn't far from God when I graduated from high school. But I was furious with Him. I was devastated and enraged. I certainly wasn't close to Him. I was wrestling with the "problem of pain" from a radically Christian perspective, and it was killing me.

Am I now closer to God because of my experience? Absolutely.
Am I now more like Christ because of my experience? By the grace of God.
Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.
Was it one of the hardest, most painful, potentially-drive-me-away-from-God experiences of my life? You betcha.

And, I argue: To be effective ambassadors for Christ, we must walk these paths. These are the things that allow God to make us into the people He wants us to be.

My advice (as of this moment, which I'm sure will develop and change as I grow in wisdom):

  1. Make your ministry about loving people as Christ loves them, not about converting souls.
  2. Expect to have your world rocked. The ideals of a Christian life aren't nearly as neat and tidy as we'd like.
  3. Throw yourself on the mercy and grace of God through the good and terrible. There's a ton of Scripture about this, but it's easy to forget when it feels like God has forgotten you.
  4. God is a redemptive God, and He can use even the devastation of failure for His glory. And I am happy to chat with you at any point before, during, or after high school about your experiences and your questions as I've begun to recognize God's redemptive work in this area of my life.

Ultimately, this is something that your parents will need to walk with you through as well. Definitely talk with them about this--and feel free to have them shoot me questions as well. I believe high school is a great opportunity for growing in ministry, but it is also incredibly hard.

Enough rambling for now.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

5 comments:

cherishthescientist.net said...

Or as St. Francis of Assisi so succinctly stated it: "Preach the Gospel always. If necessary, use words." ;-)

Knitwit said...

I would add: be prepared for real persecution, from both staff and students.

mom said...

Yup, you definitely gained wisdom through this experience, Luke, and good advice to pass on!

Blessings,
Tammy ~@~

Birthblessed said...

Honestly, most of the persecution we've experienced has been from our own comfort zone and from homeschoolers and religious people.

Homeschoolers and religious people (like I was not that long ago) criticize the choice for public school. They talk about homeschooling like it's a morally superior choice, they say anyone can and should homeschool, and they continuously put down public schools, teachers, and culture.

My own comfort zone makes me drag-- drag myself outta bed when homeschooling allowed the warm comforter well into midmorning if need be. Drag myself out of the house when everything is just so NICE at home. Drag myself into situations I hadn't wanted to have to deal with, like kids who really do show up to school hungry, can't get parents to sign permission slips, and sometimes don't have any place to sleep at night.

It took a lot to admit that it wasn't necessarily right to choose homeschooling the way I'd chosen it. I once criticized a family for letting their son choose public school in his 8th grade year. Boy was I wrong. It takes a very strong mama to raise children, no matter how they are schooled, and where one does schooling is a morally neutral choice, honestly it is.

I'm still homeschooling my little girls, for a while yet anyway. The oldest wants to go to the performing arts academy next fall to major in dance. That will be a whole new ballgame, putting a daughter into a jrhi/high school.

Luke said...

Absolutely, Cherish <smile>.

Knitwit, I didn't experience that much persecution. I did have people who got annoyed at me... but I've come to realize that I was probably rather annoying <smile>. That's not to say that you won't get push-back, but I personally didn't have much.

Thanks, Tammy!

Birthblessed, yes. There are certainly groups within the homeschool community that are far harsher than what I experienced in public school. Granted, I don't hang out with many of them. And they don't hang out with me much either <smile>. May we all have the wisdom to pursue the things God has called us to, and rest in the grace He provides for whatever path we follow Him down.

~Luke


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