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Tuesday, April 28, 2009

That Quiet Place

One of the film books I own--which, while funny, doesn't exactly set you up to be a good filmmaker--suggests that you hide your camera's user manual in the bathroom. That way, if you ever get stuck and can't figure out how to do something, excuse yourself to the potty and figure it out.

I just visited el baño because I couldn't think of anything to write about.

I'm back now.

And I'm writing.

To borrow a quote from Eugene Meltsner, "I do some of my best work there." And that's proven to be the case for me. Though, when I was younger, I did most of my thinking on our trampoline. I highly recommend them. Highly. Probably because there was never too much blood involved. But that's the trampoline, not the bathroom.

The restroom is a great place because it is typically just you--doing your thing. You can, for the most part, shut out everything else and regroup. Much like a frantic filmmaker trying to figure out how to set the f-stop on his camera.

Granted, I've read enough posts from mothers who can't even escape from their children to take care of personal business, and so perhaps I'm just naive and don't know what it's really like to have kids. In any case, where do you go to get your thinking done and gather yourself?

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Expectant Father


Jennifer said...

The shower. It is the one thing I told my husband I was unwilling to give up. I know it isn't very green to say so, but I take long, hot showers and I don't care about the water supply.

Sometimes it is about setting priorities... and mine is to have some alone time, any way I can get it.

Be nice to your wife when the baby comes. Make sure she gets an uninterrupted, hot shower on a regular basis.

6intow said...

I had to laugh that you are quoting Eugene, even if it was one of his more simplistic statements. :-)

I thoroughly enjoy long walks and runs when I get them. I think the mix of fresh air, blood pumping, solitude helps me sort things out and gain a better perspective on the comparatively petty problems of the day.


Heather the Mama Duk said...

The shower for me, too. At least when I don't have a child or two getting in with me.

Ariana Sullivan said...

My car is my quiet place once every three months when I get out by myself. lol
Besides that my house is honestly never quiet. Not even for a minute.

On a sidenote, your comment on my blog made me tear up. It was so simple but I could just tell you were really wanting your kids. I know there's little you can do to hurry it along so I'll just say a prayer for you and Brittany (did I spell that right?) that it seems to pass quickly.
It's a sad thing that you guys are there ready to give those kids a loving home but that it takes so dang long :(

Rosslyn Elliott said...

LOL! Good post, Luke. The other day, I needed inspiration for my blog, so I opened my telephone book at random, picked a word, and began blogging on the topic.

I just received my first Sonlight shipment! Thrills! Chills! My daughter is intrigued by the world history, as I knew she would be. I am very grateful for the thought and the passion behind Sonlight.

Unknown said...

It's the potty for me. Fortunately, my kids are old enough now (5 and 7) that I can say, "I'm not going to yell-talk to you through the bathroom door. Wait until I'm done!" And they've also reached the golden age where I can just lock them out. Ahhhhh...

Erika said...

The shower for me too! I tell everyone I do my best praying in the shower. I'll frequently come out of the shower with a great idea to share with my husband.

Unknown said...

Loved the Eugene quote! We're big fans around here! I'd have to say most of my thinking happens in the shower, too. It's the only time I can get any privacy. :)

Monica@DailyDwelling said...

I get up before the kids and have quiet, alone time then or after they're in bed at night. The bathroom is nice, but it doesn't always work with the demands of little ones.

Unknown said...

I love absolute quiet in the morning. (Guess how often I get *that* treat?)

But, over the years I've become a chameleon, out of necessity. The car; the shower; the bath; the woods; as long as I am alone, I can process. :D

Luke Holzmann said...

Jennifer, I love long hot showers too. Though, I like baths even more if I could fit them in <smile>. And thanks for the reminder to give Brittany time when the kids finally come!

Erin, I like walks as well. I did Cross Country in high school, but the shinsplints and less than awesome knees don't make it very pleasant now. Though, I do love swimming and thinking.

Heather, I can imagine. I don't have kids yet, but it makes sense <smile>.

Ariana, glad you get out at least a few times a year <laughing>. And, yeah... waiting is hard. Thank you so much for your prayers!

Rosslyn, happy Box Day! Woo-hoo! May this year be your best yet <smile>. And picking a random word is an interesting idea. I'm going to have to keep that mind...

Becky, good stuff! Enjoy the peace <smile>.

Erika, I shouldn't be that surprised that so many people like the shower. I tend to be rather asleep still during my morning showers <smile>.

Jenn, always glad to connect with other Adventures in Odyssey fans <smile>.

Monica, I got up at 5 every morning to do some writing two years ago. I loved it. It was so peaceful. I should start that up again. Of course, I currently get in to work early and that's nice too.

Angi, sounds like you've got some early birds <smile>. May you find those moments of rest when you need them!

Thank you all for jumping in on this. It's been a blast <smile>.


Karla Cook @ Roads to Everywhere said...

Who says you get to "go" anywhere to think and gather yourself? Ha!

Luke Holzmann said...

Karla, you crack me up <laughing>. If you need to find a place to just sit to relax... that's fine <smile>.



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