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Thursday, April 9, 2009

Keep Those Kids Home!

I came across a blog post today about why preschools are not a good idea. Seems that putting children in an environment devoid of their parents--or at least a relative or dedicated care giver--for many hours a day negatively impacts their socialization and classroom skills.

That's right. The the original article says that "the more time kids spent in non-maternal care during the first 4.5 years of life, the more behavioral problems they developed." (emphasis in original text)

The next logical question--to me, at least--is: If this is true for those under the age of 5, why is it magically different at age 6 or 16?

This post and the original article present extremely powerful reasons to at least consider homeschooling. It presents several very good reasons why homeschooling allows for a better growth environment.

What blows my mind is that this article was written in 2006.

And, really, my own parents can attest to behavioral issues caused by "peer socialization." My older sister had a dramatic improvement when she came home after several years at a private Christian school. And a family at our church pulled their son out of school because he was getting far too disruptive and it doing much better now.

Homeschooling: It's better for your children.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Expectant Father

26 comments:

Jana said...

You can say that again, and again !!! I totally agree that the best place for a child to learn is at home with a loving parent. I have three graduates, and two more to go.

Not that all parents are capable or willing to homeschool though.

I am so tired of those that scream that our children can NOT be socialized without daycare.

Prisca said...

Absoluetely dead-on! Thanks for sharing!

mary grace said...

We sent Jo to preschool because, well ... everyone else was doing it. She went to a Christian preschool that we really couldn't afford because we thought it was the best option out there. Within a few weeks, I was wondering why were stretching our already too-tight budget to fit this in. Sure, she was spending some great circle time with her Sunday School buddies, but what was the magic about having someone else teach her the alphabet in a totally fake environment at just two years of age? We didn't have any issues with inappropriate behavior or other nastiness (although we did find that we had a few theological differences with the teachers that came to light around Easter time ... interesting, to say thee least!). We took her out eventually and haven't looked back.

Kristen & Cliff said...

I could not agree more. And i am saying that as someone who planned to work full time... til we had our first. Now, I have trouble not thinking it odd that parents have kids and at 6 weeks send them off to a family member or day care. I cannot fathom it. Good post Luke!

Sheri said...

Dead on here-but of course, then the Gov't cannot get that indoctoring in as fast-the saddest thing I hear out of a mom's mouth (and I have heard this a lot) is "I can't wait 'til little Johnny goes to Kindergarten this fall." I have to walk away-esp. when they add on the "now I can do this or that and so forth" like they are such an inconvience. Sad. Good post-thanks

Amy said...

Well said, Luke! Well said.

Amy

Kim & Dave said...

Amen, Luke!

Monica said...

I couldn't agree more...well said!

Jill in Kentucky said...

Hi Luke,
This proves what I have said for years and years. Thanks for the scientific evidence. I commented on this on my blog today too. http://jillevely.blogspot.com/2009/04/keep-your-preschoolers-home.html

Thanks Luke,
Jill

Jenn@A Country Girl's Ramblings said...

AMEN!

Luke said...

Thank you all for your responses! Your insights and encouragement are very inspiring <smile>.

Keep up the great work you are doing in the lives of your children.

~Luke

Becky said...

This was true for my son. He spent two years in a private Christian school, and during his time there, he went from being confident, cheerful and polite to being insecure and a bit of a bully. He's been at home for nearly a year now, and his confidence has returned. We're still working on some of the more deeply rooted behavior issues. But we're getting there. Thankfully, we has the Holy Spirit, who parents with us.

Shauna @ Treasure Seekers said...

I've heard a lot about this report in the past few years. Most of the coverage only highlights the study's findings regarding the positive effects of daycare and preschool, though. I recently read an article in a major parenting magazine that cited the study to support the idea that having kids spend time in daycare/preschool is an important part of building their immune system.

Birthblessed said...

Yeah, well keeping them home doesn't guarantee anything either, Luke. As an adoptive father, you should be of the hope that many bonds can be tied after age 5 as well. My son was never out of my care but he's certainly no picnic to raise. Never has been.

Now, I majored at CSU in Human Development and Family Studies and worked in day cares for years, which is precisely WHY I never put my kids in any day care. Ever.

Esthermay said...

Here's my opinion:
DUH!
My motto:
"I homeschool because I've seen the village."

Ariana said...

I'll just say, "I agree" ;)

Luke said...

Becky, glad to hear homeschooling has been helping. Keep up the great work!

Shauna, the immune system argument is an interesting one. I think if you kid plays with other children, goes to church regularly, and is perhaps involved in a local activity, you'll be more than covered on the germ end. And, from what I've seen, it seems that day cares are too much for the immune system to handle... which is why kids get sick there... a lot. <shrug>

Amy, you're absolutely right. We have an amazing capacity for resilience. But my point remains: It's better if you don't have to overcome the negative. ...and since kids have enough issues as it is, we don't need to add any more <smile>.

Esthermay, that's good <smile>.

Ariana, <smile>.

~Luke

Lisa said...

It's encouraging to read an article on the benefits of keeping kids at home rather than sending them off to pre-school at younger and younger ages.

Our older son went to pre-school, Kindergarten, and first grade at a Christian school. Towards the end, he became withdrawn and we decided to homeschool both our boys. We've been homeschooling five years now and love it.

Luke said...

Lisa, it's encouraging to hear from people who are loving their homeschooling experience as well <smile>. Thanks for sharing.

~Luke

dan said...

i've never had much love for pre-schools either. my stepson went to one for a year and was totally out of place - not listening to the teacher much, walking over to his friends while "class" was happening. it was kinda funny! as for dour behavioral effects, his classmates did influence him somewhat in speech and manner. not enough to have a lasting effect (we've homeschooled him ever since) but enough to make me rethink preschooling and decide that it's basically useless, if not potentially damaging.

rock on bro!

Luke said...

Thanks so much, Dan! I've added your blog to my reader, and I look forward to reading more from you in the coming days <smile>.

~Luke

Cat said...

Well said Luke! My mother keeps telling me how much I'll love it when all my kids are gone all day at public school, how much I'll wish they were there when its summer vacation, and how thrilled I'll be when they move out of my home. So far, she's completely wrong here, every minute my oldest is at school I am missing her and thinking about how long it is until I can go get her after school, and I LOVED spring break and having her here with us again for the week. And I'm suspecting that summer break will be the same way. I'm looking forward to our celebrating the first day of next school year by eating pancakes and watching the bus go by while we're still in pj's.

Some people just don't get what a joy it is to be with our children, and I feel sad for them because they don't know the happiness of watching their child light up when they understand a difficult math concept or rejoicing in the first book they read aloud (I did get that at least) Instead, they talk about how liberating it is that the "burden" of their children are back at school, and they moan at the school breaks because they may be forced to interact with their children. I feel sad for those people. (yes I know not all parents who don't homeschool are like that, and I know there are homeschoolers who are like that)

Karen Joy said...

@Amy, yes, there are definitely kids who, due to learning disorders or behavioral disorders or whatever, are just never going to be a picnic to school at home... I know you've had some serious struggle in that area, and we're going through similar things with our Nonverbal Learning Disorder son (which is very similar to Asperger's -- it's pretty much Asperger's without the single-subject fixations, but WITH extensive fine and gross motor skill problems). There are all sorts of things that he just doesn't get that, compared with peers, should have been learned and conquered long ago. Socially & behaviorally, there are many situations where my just-turned-3yo daughter does better than he does, and he's nearly 10.

Still. I'm convinced he'd be worse if he was in a regular school environment, be it Christian or public, or whatever. Every time we meet with Grant's developmental pediatrician, he asks hopefully, "You're still homeschooling him, aren't you?" The doc is certain that if Grant was in a classroom environment, the school would insist on him being medicated, and like me, he'd like to avoid that as long as possible.

ANYways. I agree with both you, Luke, and you, Amy.

Luke said...

<nodding vigorously while reading Cat's comment> Yep. Exactly. <smile>

Thanks for sharing more of your experience, Karen. I don't have experience in these areas yet, so I can only go off what others have said. Your insights are extremely valuable <smile>.

~Luke

Heather the Mama Duk said...

That doesn't surprise me at all.

Luke said...

Me either <smile>.

~Luke


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